Free Essay Pre-Marital Sex: Why Not?

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Pre-Marital Sex: Why Not?

Pre-Marital sex is a big issue when it comes to teenagers. Not only is it questioned by Pentecostal teens but it is also questioned by worldly teens. Everyone wants to know “Why not?” I think that we should take the time now to just further analyze this question. Instead of asking the question “Why not?”, let’s ask the question “Why?”. Why exactly should we have premarital sex. There is one main answer found why teenagers, both Pentecostal and worldly, think premarital sex is ok. And there are also many ways that pre-marital sex can affect YOU as a human being. There are physical, Spiritual, and Emotional effects it can have on you. Let’s figure out the reason why we think it is ok or not ok and then find out the different effects it could have on you.

The answer found through a study conducted by Don W. Hills, was that premarital sex was just pure pleasure. Of course, sex is said to be fun. That attitude is as old as man-kind. But I think only half of that statement is true. Sex is obviously a pleasure, but is premarital sex really pure??? First of all let’s define what pure means. Pure in the “Webster’s New world College Dictionary” is defined as free from any adulterant; clear; free from sin or guilt; blameless. From the information gathered above, I would come to the conclusion that Premarital- sex and pure pleasure, being put into the same sentence and into the same context as above, is an oxy-moron. They go against each other and cancel each other out completely.

The statement “sex is fun”, is another that concern’s me. Only a fool would tell a teenager to stop thinking about sex. My answer to that is money is also fun but responsablily goes along with it as well. Driving a car is fun but there are also certain precautions you should take along with that also. There is lots of room, while driving, for a serious mistake to occur. That is why we have so many laws to abide by while performing the task of driving. Driving remains fun only when the laws that go along with it are obeyed. While the carelessness of not abiding by the driving rules can be the cause of death or a serious injury, it falls short of the effects premarital sex can have on your human personality, physical well-being, spiritual status, or even your emotional well-being.

The bible says “Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body; but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body.” (I Corinthians 6:18) When you sin against your body you loose respect for your body as well as the body of the one you are involved with. Once the respect is gone it is much easier to remain sexually active. Losing respect then leads to a mis-leading view of love in which you believe love is built around physical acts.

There are also emotional effects that pre-marital sex has on us. Without the committed bonds of marriage, sex is a selfish act done for personal satisfaction or gain. When have committed the act of premarital- sex, your self value and dignity is lost. One’s partner can say “I love you because or if you have sex with me rather than “I love you.” Guilt is a consequence of violating God’s law. There are two kinds of guilt in our world today. The first is moral guilt. This is the type of guile that God has placed in a Christians heart and lets us know when we have stepped out side of God’s boundary he has set up for us. The other is known as the floating guilt. This is caused by people that believe there is no right or wrong but does have guilt attacks because of the fact they don’t know if they are doing right or wrong. Now both of these can play with our head and cause us to have wavered emotions. Which causes stress in our lives and just isn’t a healthy outcome.

Premarital sex can mess up our spiritual status. “Blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall see God.” (Matthew 5:8) “God will judge fornicators and adulterers.” (Hebrews 13:4) It is made clear to me that God’s word forbids any type of sex outside of marriage. There are spiritual consequences any time we disobey God. There are many Bible characters who committed sexual sins and all were punished for there ungodly acts. Great trouble and grief came to each of them just as they would to you. Sexual purity is a way to show respect for others. It is impossible to show someone the love of God while engaged in sin. When we maintain sexual purity, we can show God’s love to others and present him correctly.

Premarital sex. “Why or why not?” Well, you could go by all the above text or you could go by Gods thinking:

~You may call premarital sex “fun”

~God calls it Fornication

~You may call it “Sleeping with a girl/boy”

~God calls it Fornication

~You may call it “New Morality”

~God calls it Fornication

~You may call it “Free Love”

~God calls it Fornication

~You may call it “Situation Ethics”

~God calls it Fornication

…and God is against fornication. Now that you know a little more about premarital sex and the effects it could have on you, I will let you make your choice. “To Fornicate or not to Fornicate?” That is the question. It is your choice.