Uploaded by Ccabra on May 11, 2012
when they fought.
I have many memories of visiting with me dad. I was never as close with him as I was with my mom. The divorce could have been a big part of that. I think that since it was pretty much automatically decided we would live with our mom that at a young age I took that as being abandoned. That we weren't wanted, he wanted to move along and find a new family. My brother had several behavioral problems growing up. He gave my mom hell. He did not want to see our dad at all for a couple of years. So I remember going to go visit my dad every other weekend alone many of the times. My dad remarried about 5 years after my parents divorced. My brother didn't care for our stepmom much until we both hit "adult" years. I think as adolescents we saw her as trying to replace our mom...and held some hatred towards her for that.
My mom worked constantly after the divorce. Working 2-3 jobs at a time. We never went without but one thing she would never do was ask our dad for more money. I don't know if she was too proud or what. I think back in the day(like it was so long ago haha) she got less than 400 dollars a month for child support. Never went to court to ask for more. So at an already awkward age of being a teenager I was always self-conscious about my clothing, hair, etc.
My mom had a few boyfriends I can remember growing up. They would start to get really serious and then there would be a break up. It would never be really explained, but I felt like I was the caretaker of the house. Worrying about mom, cleaning, cooking. On top of that I saw the amount of trouble my brother was getting into so I had to put forth extra effort to "be the good kid". I got good grades in school, did some extra-cirricular activities now and then. But to be honest I felt so socially-exempt. I was always scared of what others thought, to the point of making myself sick. I remember skipping school one day in the 9th grade to hide in my closet.
Now, I am married myself, for 10 years. And we have 3 children. Marriage has had its ups and downs but coming from...