LIFE IS WHAT YOU MAKE OF IT By Ayesha Shahid
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LIFE IS WHAT YOU MAKE OF IT
By Ayesha Shahid
Ali applied for a new job but as his self-esteem was low and he considered himself a failure and unworthy of success, he was already convinced that he was not going to get the job. He had a negative attitude towards himself and believed that the other applicants were better and more qualified than him. Ali manifested this attitude due to his pessimistic outlook towards life and the resultant negative experiences with job interviews. His mind was occupied with discouraging thoughts and fears concerning the job for the whole week before the job interview. He was convinced that he would be rejected. During the whole week he did nothing except whining and complaining of his bad luck. On the day of the interview he got up late and to his horror he discovered that the shirt he had planned to wear was dirty and the other one needed ironing. As it was already too late, he went out wearing a shirt full of wrinkles. During the interview he was tense, displayed an unenthusiastic attitude, worried about his shirt, and felt hungry because he did not get enough time to have breakfast. All this distracted his mind and made it difficult for him to focus on the interview. His overall overt behavior made a bad impression and consequently he materialized his fear and did not get the job.
Shahid applied for the same job too but approached the matter in a different way. He was quite certain of getting the job. During the week preceding the interview he often visualized himself making a good impression and attaining success. In the evening before the interview he prepared the clothes he was going to wear and went to sleep a little earlier. On the day of the interview he woke up earlier than usual, had ample time to eat breakfast and then to arrive to the interview before the scheduled time. He got the job because he made a good impression owing to his high self-esteem and a positive attitude towards life. Of course he had the proper qualifications for the job too but so had Ali.
Above is a glimpse from the lives of our youth- people who are around us, their unhappiness, their difficulties and pitiful states that are nothing but self created miseries. At a closer look at our surroundings one realizes that there...