Lessons to Help Deal with Difficult People
Lessons to Help Deal with Difficult People
Almost everyone has an obnoxious person in there family or at their work. In this essay the writer will teach you how to deal with difficult people like this.
“Since you can’t avoid difficult people” “You have to know how to cope with them, and the first step is understanding. The best approach is not to try to get them to change, but to find a way to work around them,” (Dr Allen Frances 287)
These are the ways to try and deal with difficult people:
Keep some emotional distance. Don’t take everything people say seriously, because most of the time they are very insecure and need something to make them selves feel better. If you work with someone who is self centered and is a co worker they will try and take all the credit for someone else’s work, because they are not happy with their own. Make sure that your expectations are realistic because if you are dating a person who is very silent, and does not express them selves, and always wants to be in control; Don’t expect them to change because they never will. Give them some of what they need, like when a person dresses very different it’s normally because they are seeking attention from others. So give them a quick glance to show you noticed them. If a worker suspects you are planning something he will get uncomfortable; Try to keep all your plains open.
Watch out for “all or nothing” thinking. People have their own point of views about things and they tend to only see things their way. If someone is in a relationship with a person like this hang on for a ride, because when you agree with him everything turns out fine, and then you start stating your views you are totally wrong no question about it. Don’t attack them, you tell them how you feel or what you think with out putting them down. Many of these people are sensitive and scared of disapproval, and they will start to overreact. Hang in there with the people who you love and are difficult because they calm down between the ages of 40-50. Don’t take the rap, because when difficult people start flipping out over nothing...