Necessity of Compliments and Their Influence on Relationship
Necessity of Compliments and their Influence on Relationships
Everyday in American society, relationships end, leaving romantic partners pondering over where things may have gone wrong. Psychologists have been searching for many years as to what may cause of romantic feelings to fade away. Looking at studies time and again, I see that many psychologists try to go down the same roads with their hypothesis, and often prove a certain study to be more accurate, as opposed to learning what many seek to discover. I chose a study, which caught my attention during a class discussion on compliments. The class discussion kept hitting on points that compliments are a key in two people forming physical attraction for someone, and also a mentally stable connection between the two. It has been shown in studies, that the positive effects of a compliment are much stronger from a stranger, as opposed to a compliment from a friend. The reasoning for this is simple. If a complete stranger were to approach you and compliment you on how great you look, you are much more taken by surprise than if a friend were to do it “out of kindness.” You see, friends have already accepted you for who you are, so when they compliment you on something, it is nice to here, but does not really effect you in the way it use to when the two people had a relationship less entwined. The four qualities of interaction are all needed in order to keep a relationships stronghold intact. Whether it is frequency, Diversity, Duration, or Emotional impact, a relationship is very rarely able to work with the absence of any of the four. Well if this is true, than my question is, are compliments a key in keeping a relationship strong. Does the absence of complimenting in a relationship, causes an emotional and attractive decline in the relationship, although the four qualities of interaction are still constant?
Frequency is the influence needed for a relationship to hold strong. Thousands of people each year take shots at long distance relationships, trusting the saying, “Absence makes the heart grow founder.” Sadly, almost 99% of the time these relationships will fail, for the reason that the couple does not have frequent time together as they would if they were geographically in the vicinity of each other. The point just mentioned can be summed up in the saying, “Out...