The Importance of Declaring Independence in America
The Importance of Declaring Independence in America
From the day a child is born, the separation process begins. A child craves independence and grows strong because of it. You do your children a disservice if you think it is nice and kind to do everything for them. We all need a helping hand at times, but we the children need a hand that shows us how to take care of themselves.
Perhaps it is your heritage, but people in this country have never been satisfied with dependence. The colonists started a revolution in order to gain independence. Cultural or human nature we your children expect independence as well. When parents teach a child to be independent and self-reliant they gain the child's appreciation respect and love. When parents try to do everything for a child in hopes of gaining the child's love and gratitude they produce a dependent child filled with resentment, anger, and hostility.
I know this is a difficult concept for some parents to accept. They enjoy doing for their young children. A child who is dependent stays close and even learns to let the parent do everything. Besides doing for these parents also try to absorb the consequences of real life for their child. They would rather help than see the child suffer the consequences of the child's own behavior."I'll do it for you. I'll make it better this time." Of course there will always be another time. The we will either choose to be dependent and will remain so forever or the we will struggle and fight for power over our own life, often excluding the parents. By elementary school years, you the parents will begin to see this disaster of their own making. The problems become intense by teenage years. Parents can be faced with irresponsible teen, an emotionally detached teen, or a teen in rebellion.
The solution: Avoid the problem of dependency by training for independence.
• Step One: Let us make choices and hold us accountable for our choice.
When we are allowed to make choices, we must also be allowed to experience the consequences of our choice. If we choose a hamburger and wish we had the chicken nuggets instead we can then choose to eat the hamburger or go hungry. It's a valid choice. If we choose not to wear a sweater, let us be cold. It won't hurt us and...