Women Who Deal with Domestic Abuse
Women Who Deal with Domestic Abuse
When most women think of falling in love, they think of pure bliss. They think of the long walks along the beach, those intimate nights, and a lifetime of happiness with their significant other. What they do not think of are the black eyes, the bruised bodies, the sleepless and tearful nights, and the fear of wondering if they will live to see the next day. It is not an easy concept to understand why a woman would want to subject herself to that type of lifestyle, but in some cases such as fear, the misconception of love, and the lives of children, women tend to forget that they are important as well. No matter what the reason, abuse is unacceptable and no woman or anyone else should have to put up with it.
The fear of being killed is one of the main reasons that a woman permits herself to stay in an abusive relationship. “Even though in most cases the threats of death are not carried out, -- sometimes they are, -- and there is no way to guarantee the outcome (Faulkner, “Why Women Stay”)(http://www.prevent-abuse-now.com/domviol.htm#top). The man often uses threats as an effective technique to keep the woman in the relationship. He may even tell her that he will commit suicide if she ever tries to leave him. No one wants the death of someone else on his or her conscience so the woman naturally feels that she has no other choice but to stay with him. There is also the fear of the man threatening to hurt someone close to the woman and that also persuades the woman to stay. Fear, as defined by Random House Webster’s School & Office Dictionary, is said to be a distressing emotion aroused by impending danger, evil, or pain. By definition alone, one can clearly understand why fear plays a major role in abuse.
To many women, children are the most import things in their lives. For this reason, a woman will do anything to make sure her child (ren) have a relationship with his/her father: Even if it means staying in an unhealthy relationship with his/her father. She does not want to feel guilty about “breaking up” the family, so she decides to stay, for the children. He...